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Wednesday, January 28, 2009

Illinois Midwifery

As many of you know by now, we are homebirthers. Unfortunately, for far too many mothers in Illinois, homebirth choices are limited. Below is a short clip on the current crisis state of midwifery in Illinois. You can visit Illinois Families for Midwifery for more information on our new upcoming House Bill 226, the Home Birth Safety Act. If you reside in IL, I urge you to look up your own state legislator (both Senator and Representative) and contact them regarding House Bill 226. It has not yet had a formal introduction to either the House or Senate, but the planning is in the works. Please remember that this is NOT your U.S. Senator and Representative, but rather the men and women at the Illinois state level. Even if you think I am crazy for choosing this option, I hope that you would support me in making this choice for my family. Contacting politicians is MUCH easier than you would think . . . a phone call, email or even short letter asking for their support of H.B. 226 would be SOOOOO very helpful to our cause!

Enjoy the clip!

Monday, January 26, 2009

The Womb--a dangerous place to be

Shan posted that Obama video (see below) to her Facebook account as well as our blog. An old high-school friend said that the same view (recap: BO was a prime case for abortion; abandoned by his father, raised by a frazzled single mother; he wasn't and look what he has become) could be used in the case of Charles Manson. He came from similiar circumstances and look how he turned out.

A couple problems with this line of thinking. One, the Catholic ad was not meant to be syllogistic, using dry reasoning to close the case on the issue of abortion. What is was trying to do was make people stop and think; how has abortion changed the landscape of our nation? Since one-third of my generation hasn't made it out of the womb, I think it's safe to say that the effect on America has been great, no matter which way you lean on the issue.

Two, he seems to imply that abortion can be a positive thing since it has probably weeded out some other Charles Mansons. Maybe, though the Freakonomics theory of "abortion lowers the crime rate" has been refuted. Nonetheless, surely this can't be used as a pro-choice argument? "Susie, I think you should abort your baby; gosh, he may grow up to be a serial killer!" I think it's safe to say that Charles Manson was not pre-destined from above to turn into a nut-job . . . I'd say some familial dysfunction had a role to play in that. Besides, isn't that a pretty good case for adoption? There's plenty of infertile couples who would probably have given their left arms to raise little "Charlie." Heck, he may have grown up in a stable home and became a doctor, lawyer, father, friend.


As a follow-up, the friend in question sent along this link, which contained a question to "stump anti-abortionists":


"If abortion was illegal, what should be done with the women who have illegal abortions?"


Well, let's look at this one from a rational point of view. I'm no logician (is that a word?), but here's a couple syllogisms to get the party started:

Major premise: Murder is the intentional killing of a human person.
Minor premise: Abortion is the intentional killing of a human person.
Conclusion: Abortion is murder.

Obviously, pro-choice folk will disagree with the minor premise, but for our purposes, let's assume it's true.

Major premise: Murder should be punished in our legal system.
Minor premise: Abortion is murder.
Conclusion: Abortion should be punished in our legal system.

Yes, for pro-lifers to be consistent, they must agree that if abortion were illegal, that a woman who procures an abortion should be punished as a murderer. Though that sounds harsh, look at it this way: If a woman gave birth to her child and then took a knife and stabbed it to death, shouldn't she be charged with murder? So what's the difference if it had taken place minutes before, when the baby was still in the birth canal? Location, nothing more.

And so, if abortion was illegal, and a black-market doctor jammed scissors in the child's skull before it was completely out, wouldn't that be a punishable offense? Wouldn't the woman be an accomplice, at the very least?

Our legal system takes into account variables when deciding murder cases: premeditation, psychological state, etc. They could take these things into account for abortion cases as well. So in many cases, I wouldn't think a woman would get "murder in the first degree", but I think manslaughter would apply, no question.

I know this all sounds very cold, but this whole "rights of the mother" argument has been taken too far, resulting in 50 million abortions in the past 35 years. Instead of encouraging young, scared mothers that abortion is the only route to solve their problems, why can't we support these women and offer them help? Why don't Planned Parenthood counselors make a compelling case for adoption? Why can't we save these women from the many possible effects of abortion (regret, grief, depression, suicidal tendencies, sterillity, breast cancer, etc.)? Why aren't they given any hope?

As many of our readers are friends and family, we hold you all dear to our hearts. We truly hope that one or both of us have affected your life positively in some way, either great or small. In all truth, both Shannon and I and very lucky to be alive today. Both of us were born to young, unwed mothers, both struggling to find their way in life. Both were scared, undoubtedly, feeling lost and probably hopeless. I was born in 1979, a year with a very high number of abortions, Shannon in 1980, a year with the most abortions since Roe v. Wade. We were perfect candidates for an early-term abortion.

I saw my birth mother over Christmas break, and she confirmed that she had called an abortion clinic when she first found out . . . lucky for me, she decided to go through with the pregnancy. Lucky for the both of us, both mothers had support at home; no one whispering in their ear that all their troubles could be over for a quick trip to the "women's health" clinic. I was given up for adoption, Shannon was not. Both of us turned out pretty well, if I do say so myself.

In short, we are very blessed to even be here. And we strive to be a blessing for others; it's inconceivable to think that a different choice by either of our mothers and we wouldn't be married. We wouldn't have our wonderful children. And, we like to think, the world would be worse off.

Blago

SPRINGFIELD, Ill. – Gov. Rod Blagojevich, taking his defense to television rather than his impeachment trial, lashed out at his accusers Monday and revealed he had considered naming Oprah Winfrey to the U.S. Senate.

(snip)

He said that when he was arrested on federal corruption charges, he took solace from thinking of other jailed leaders — Nelson Mandela, the Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. and Gandhi.
(link)


Does he seem mentally imbalanced to anyone else? The balls on this guy! If a case could be made against direct democracy, this is it. We elected him, not once, but twice! Take a bow, Illinois.

Grateful

I have been stuck in the house for almost two weeks with sick children. It's cold, snowy and not yet near the end of winter. One can get kind of loopy in those circumstances, so I thought I should take a moment to focus on some of the many blessings in my life.

Here are ten things I am grateful for today:

1) A warm home (even if others disagree that 65 degrees is warm!)
2) Food in my belly and to offer my children (even if it is not always the food they want)
3) An extremely loving, compassionate and patient husband (who puts up with far more emotional dysfunction than he probably bargained for!)
4) Life! I am especially thankful in this month of January (my birthday, anniversary of Roe v. Wade) that my mother (young, unwed, didn't have her act together, etc.) chose to continue with the pregnancy and give birth to me (even if my life was not "normal" growing up).
5) The overall health of my family
6) The love in our home (even if we don't always demonstrate it perfectly)
7) My Catholic faith
8) My babies, who are teaching me every day what it means to love, sacrifice and grow
9) The ability to walk and do things for myself
10) Being a woman, respecting all of our life changes and loving that I am different from men

Hope you can all see the blessings in your life as well, even amidst the moments of struggle.

Thursday, January 22, 2009

Life: Imagine the Potential

This is from Catholicvote.com and has a pretty powerful message . . .

It's a short watch, please take the time to look.

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Lullabies--the Standard and the Morbid

As a musician, it should come as no surprise that I've used lullabies throughout my parental tenure to put my wee ones to sleep. Though I've made my way through a few standards ("Hush, Little Baby" (which Kellyn now refers to as "Rockingbird"), Brahms' Lullaby, etc.), I found out very early on that an old song from the 60's had a sweet, soporific effect on my offspring: "Patches" by Dickey Lee.

I came across this song on an old collection of my parents, and I was intrigued by the simplicity of the song . . . but it's hard not to raise an eyebrow at the lyrics:

Down by the river that flows by the coal yards
stand wooden houses with shutters torn down.
There lives a girl everybody calls Patches.
Patches my darling of old Shantytown.

We planned to marry when June brought the summer
I couldn't wait to make Patches my bride
now I don't see how that ever can happen.
My folks say no and my heart breaks inside.

Refrain:
Patches oh what can I do
I swear I'll always love you
but a girl from that place would just bring me disgrace
so my folks won't let me love you.

Each night I cry as I think of that shanty
and pretty Patches there watching the door.
She doesn't know that I can't come to see her
Patches must think that I love her no more.

I hear a neighbor telling my father
he says a girl name of Patches was found
floating face down in that dirty old river
that flows by the coal yards in old Shantytown.

Patches oh what can I do
I swear I'll always love you.
It may not be right but I'll join you tonight.
Patches I'm coming to you.

Yep, the guy offs himself after she goes first . . . how Shakespearean. Anyway, it works like a charm: hardly an eyelid can resist the gravitational pull of this song. I'm just really interested when I'm singing it to a younger sibling and Cavan perks up and says, "Hey, wait a minute . . . "

Here it is. (Musician's note: With its 3(!) key changes, the piece has a range of a minor 13th! Try that with a babe on your chest!)


Friday, January 02, 2009

Prelude to Greatness, Part 3


Some relatives had given Cavan two Lego-like playsets for Christmas, one of pirates on a island and one of some Roman soldiers in a fortress of some sort. While we were setting it up, Cavan asked a question about how they fought each other. Wanting to impart some general historical knowledge, I replied that the Romans were dead long before the pirates came onto the scene.

Heath: "The Romans came first, and the pirates came along later."

Cavan: (Without skipping a beat) "And then came the super-heroes . . . "

Talk about revisionist history!

Happy New Year!